To the Mom Who Wants to Turn In Her Mom Card
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I have voiced a concern previously about how much time the people in today’s society seem to spend judging one another when I wrote an open letter to the woman walking past my driveway. And it is with this in mind that I again am going to write a disclaimer stating that I am not perfect. At times, I am a mom who wants to turn in her mom card.
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I think sometimes people have an assumption about me, and I can see how easy it is to make this particular assumption about me. I think there is an assumption that people often make when they hear of a mom who has seven kids, and that assumption is that I love being a mom 100% of the time.
This naturally gives way to the assumption that I have endless amounts of patience, that I don’t make mistakes, that I must not ever feel overwhelmed, and that I must love being a mom ALL THE TIME.
Well, let me tell you, these assumptions would be incorrect.
Sometimes I have known people to think that I have no business having a large family if I don’t have endless amounts of patience, if I don’t make all the right decisions, and if I want a break from my kids at times.
Well to that I would say that I am a mom to seven kids, but I am also human. I am a sinful human being who can be selfish, who can fail, who has feelings, and I also like order, quiet, and organization. As I am sure you can imagine, order, quiet, and organization are in short supply in a bustling family of nine, which means that I am challenged every day to forego my natural bent.
I have written of my less than stellar mom moments when I wrote I Am That Mom, For Those Days When Mama Blows It, and Mom Fail, so my goal is only to be real as a mom of seven. I want to set the record straight, to make others aware of what it means to be a mom at times, and to maybe even give people a comical peek into my life to maybe make their less than stellar moments a bit less concerning.
So in sharing these “real mom” moments, please don’t judge, and, I’m sorry if somehow you got the impression that I love my job as a mom all the time. There are times when I don’t.
However, my purpose today is to speak to the mom who wants to turn in her mom card. The mom who has been challenged beyond her limits, and the mom who feels as though she is standing at the edge of a cliff and has no idea what to do.
I want to offer you a seat on my duct tape covered couch – yes really – sorry if that offends you, but I would offer you a seat on my sad couch. We’d share a cup of coffee, or maybe a glass of wine if we were feeling really sassy, and I’d share with you how I’ve been there. I’d tell you that I have been right where you were at, and then I’d listen to what you had to say.
While there is a time and a place for an action plan as I have recently written in my 9-1-1 rescue piece or when I wrote about How to Get Out of That Mom Funk, there is also a time to just receive some understanding and empathy and to just let the tears of frustration, exhaustion, and disappointment fall. Sometimes, it is necessary just to be with someone who gets it and who is there with you.
So, today, consider yourself understood, empathized with, and cried with, and you can rest in the assurance that no matter what you’d tell me, I wouldn’t judge you. I’d tell you that it’s ok to think about turning in your mom card once in awhile, and then I’d assure you that those times are few and far between.
To the mom who wants to turn in her mom card…it’s ok. You’re going to be alright. I’ve thought about turning in my mom card a time or two as well. In fact, every mom I can think of has wanted to turn in her mom card at one time or another. Find comfort in knowing that you’re not alone and in knowing that tomorrow is a new day.
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Have you ever wanted to turn in your mom card?