What’s your season?
As we are faced with the realization that we can’t do it all and we can’t be it all, the only reality that we are left with is that we must say yes to some things while saying no to others.
I think this is something that I have gained a deeper understanding of as I’ve gotten older. As I have gained a firmer grasp on this concept, reminding myself to be mindful of the season I’m in has become the most important ingredient in how I make the decision about what to say yes to and what to say no to.
The thing about seasons is that they don’t last forever, but at the same time, they cannot be ignored.
I live in Michigan where we experience all four seasons. As much as I would love to deny the fact that we experience winter, reality states that I simply cannot…says the woman who got her car stuck in a snowbank today.
Just as we can’t ignore the actual seasons, we must also pay attention to the seasons that life brings us. Interestingly, these seasons also don’t last forever and they also can’t be ignored no matter how hard we try.
Your season refers to the roles you must fill, the demands you must meet, and the dynamics of the people in your life. Some seasons are pleasant ones while others are not so pleasant.
As I was reading chapter five in The Best Yes, I was so relieved to hear the author refer to seasons.
The truth is, some seasons are so incredibly demanding that there is room for little else.
So before we go any further, what’s your season?
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Just as the author states in chapter five, saying yes to something means that we have to have the resources to fulfill the requirements that saying yes requires. Sometimes your season will limit your resources.
When we don’t have the resources to meet the demands of that yes, we don’t do ourselves any favors, we don’t do anyone else any favors, and sometimes we don’t do God any favors either.
In fact, Lysa tells us that we may even get in the way of God’s plan by saying yes to something that we have no business saying yes to in the first place.
Don’t read over that statement too quickly, it’s short, but it’s quite powerful.
This is one of my favorite lines from the book thus far:
“Emotionally —This is where this answer becomes a no. This doesn’t make me a bad person. It makes me the wrong person for that assignment.”
She later goes on to say:
“Not every assignment is my assignment.”
Could I just thank her for telling me that I am not a bad person for having to say no at times?
I think I just might need to read that a few more times.
I firmly believe that giving priority to the season we are in, whether it is a season we like or not, is exactly what we should be doing while sifting through what we can say yes to and what we can say no to.
For me, this means that I have said no to things I’ve wanted to do. I’ve said no to things that others wanted me to do. I’ve even lost friendships with those who weren’t able to accept my no. However, when deeply entrenched in a season that demands more than we even have to give, there is just nothing left to give to anything or anyone else. Just as Lysa experienced, sometimes even good things need to be passed over.
So, as we work toward learning about how to give The Best Yes, take a moment to answer this question: What’s your season?
The thoughts shared in this post were inspired by chapter one in The Best Yes. This is a book that were are reading together as a community beginning February 22nd, 2016. We are reading just three chapters a week in this book.
Even if you are not reading along with us this time, you can still pick up your own copy and gain the wisdom you need in making wise decisions in the midst of endless demands.
Here is a bit more about our book club…
This book club is a way of encouraging others to carve out the time to read at a pace of just three chapters a week because I’ve learned that finding time to read never just happens on its own.
Every Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday there will be blog posts here with Monday’s Inspirational Reads somewhere in the title with my reaction to each of the three chapters for the week, and then on Thursday evening at 9 pm EST we will be on Periscope discussing the chapters in an interactive format. You can find everything you need to know about Periscope by reading The Periscope Lowdown.
All you have to do is grab your book above, and you’re good to go! We’d love to have you join it, otherwise, grab your own copy and read any of the posts with Monday’s Inspirational Reads in the title and you can join in on your own time!