How Do You Fill Your Jar? MYM Day Three

How do you fill your jar?

I love the story about filling a jar with rocks. You can fill it with big rocks until the jar appears full. Then you can add more to the jar, like gravel, and it will fill in many of the gaps that the rocks in the jar created. But, you can still fill the jar more by adding sand into it. Because the sand is smaller still, the sand can fill in the gaps that the gravel left behind. It is amazing how the jar would appear full after every addition, but it isn’t until the smallest grains of sand that the jar is actually full.

However, what happens if you fill the jar with sand first? The jar will only be full of sand, right? For this reason, in order to fill the jar with more than one thing and to fill the jar most efficiently, it has to be filled from largest to smallest.

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Our lives are like the contents of the jar. I’m not sure if anyone would choose to fill their lives with only one thing. It is the diversity, the various experiences, and the continued growth and insatiable thirst we all feel to learn new things and become new people that truly make us feel fulfilled. It is the variety in our lives that allows us to be passionate about the life we live.

The interesting thing, though, is that we have to fill our jars in the right order to maximize the space in the jar. The only way we can do this, is to choose to fill our lives with the most important things first.

Remember how I’ve made mention of the importance of having a mission statement many times before? If you’ve created one, this is one of the times when it will really come in handy. Don’t have a mission statement? Don’t worry, if you’ve got my Ebook, I walk you through the process of creating one right in there. If you haven’t gotten my Ebook yet, the mission statement help alone would make it worth the price. A Realistic Action Plan For the Weary Mom: 15 Days of Hope From The Intentional Mom

When you have a mission statement, the ideas contained in there will be your big rocks. In going through the process of creating your mission statement, you will have already examined what matters to you most.

In filling our jars, or our lives, once we have the big rocks in place, which are our primary focal points, we can much more easily fit as much of the other things in around the big rocks as we can. The big rocks are what we’ve given our best yes to. This is an amazing book The Best Yes: Making Wise Decisions in the Midst of Endless Demands. When we give our best yes to the things that really matter to us, these are the things that will never be forgotten.

Approaching the holiday season with a clear understanding of what really matters to us means that our holidays can be enjoyable for others and for us. Rather than coming to a new year feeling drained, overwhelmed, and as though we have lost our way is not a very nice way to start a new year.

Making and taking the time now to define your big rocks and practice filling your jar with them first will be time that is so well spent. By taking this simple yet intentional step, you will be able to fill your jar with some variety and in an efficient way.

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  1. I love how she has us break down our “rocks” and then come up with a plan on how to meet those “rocks”. I never thought of it like that but it makes so much sense! I’m loving this course!