Why I’m Not Talking About Same-Sex Marriage

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Judgement. In some ways, I think there is nothing more painful that someone can do to another than to judge them. To see them, but not to really see them, and to filter them through their own warped lens. Not warped because there is anything wrong with them, but warped because everyone has a lens through which we see others and the world around us, and that lens is unique only to the life we have each lived.

People judge others based on their own viewpoints, their own beliefs, and even their own interpretation of things – including the Bible.

I am not going to write about my reaction to the Supreme Court ruling on gay marriage, which I think puts me in the minority. It has been written about more than enough already.

But what I am going to say, is how my heart has been breaking as I have watched this decision tear apart friendships and families. Harsh words have been mindlessly spoken, hateful words have been spewed, and lines have been drawn that try as we may, we just can’t undraw. And yes, judgement has been passed.

If there is one thing I have learned by watching my social media feeds explode over the past few days it is that people are passionate about what they believe. People are passionate about the ones they love, and people are passionate about the things they hold near and dear to their heart.

My heart breaks for the ones who have unfriended and been cast out, for the ones who have opened their heart to hatred, and for those who feel such heartbreak in watching events unfold that seem so contrary to who they are and what they believe.

And while my heart breaks deeply about all of this, what really makes my heart bleed red is that while we are so deeply entrenched in all this spewing, all this hating, and all this judging we have turned a blind eye to what is happening to innocent men, women, and children at the hands of evil.

Americans are tearing one another apart while terrorists gunned down dozens of tourists on a Tunisian beach. At the same time they have left a severed head atop a fence outside a French factory and terrorists blew up a Kuwaiti mosque in a bloody wave of attacks that followed an ISIS leader’s call to make the month of Ramadan a time of “calamity for the infidels.”

Those who support gay marriage are passionate, those who oppose the legalization of gay marriage are passionate, those who see this decision as an overreach by the federal government are passionate, and those who feel called to stand up for the cause of Christ are passionate. I get that.

But we are so distracted by our own judgements while evil lurks on our doorstep. There is no guarantee that this unimaginable horror will not one day land on our shores and I can’t help but wonder, will the Supreme Court ruling really matter at that point? Everyone who has deeply wounded others through their harsh words, passionate unwarranted attacks, and thoughtless oversteps into conversations that are not theirs to have—will they regret drawing these lines in the sand when that sand pools with the blood of innocent men, women, and children in our country?

And since I have a good number of readers who are not Americans, for those who face this evil in much closer proximity, my heart goes out to you. I really do hope as Americans we can stop all this nonsense hatred that really is so very trivial in the face of the evil among us.

Please hear me. Lean in close. There is nothing wrong with standing up for what you believe, but in general, from what I see, people are going about it all wrong. People are judging, people are hurting, and people are destroying relationships while the enemy, the real enemy, runs rampant among us. Please hear me when I say that it is no coincidence that this decision that is pitting American against American occurred while the enemy runs free. The evil one is incredibly astute like that.

This is no coincidence.

Let’s stop hating, let’s stop hurting, and let’s stop judging and instead, let’s use all that passion and focus it where it belongs. Let’s spread compassion, let’s spread love, and let’s spread the Good News to those who need it. Let’s spread that to those who are running for their lives, to those who fear for their lives, and to those whose lives have been ripped apart in the face of the evil that is so cleverly unfolding while we are all distracted.

Let’s just try. Just for today. Maybe for tomorrow, too. Let’s just try. Let’s focus all that passion where it belongs because at the end of the day, love does win, anyway.